Advice for young moms raising children to be young adults. How do you let your children go? They have to be responsible for themselves.
Make a way for them to view it as an honor, a right of passage. Not just something they have to do. Affirm that they are adults.
Example:
Cut apron strings and wrap them in a box with a bow. Add a note saying the apron strings were officially cut. Let them know how you admire who they have become and you will support them in prayer as they find their way in the world and adulthood.
Parents bless their grown children when they accept the fact that their children are now responsible for their own decisions. Parents can no longer prescribe the course of their child’s lives or manage events and experiences that come their way.
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Expressing Our Love
We love our adult children! Sometimes we take it for granted that they know we still love and support them.
Expressing and showing our love for them encourages them. WE don’t always need to use words. Our actions speak loudly. As they find their way in the world they still need love, acceptance and being affirmed. Let them relationship grow and mature and let them know you are proud of them. Our tone, word choices and the way we encourage them should change to reflect them as adults.
Ideas:
- Encourage them
- Affirm them
- Show approval
- Invest time
- Assure them
- Ask about their future
- Adapt with and appreciate them
- Ask questions about life- Give a “What I would do in your shoes” opinion, but support their decisions.
The more we told our boys how they should live their lives, the farther we pushed them away. Letting them make mistakes to learn from was hard to watch. My husband and I felt like it was the hardest part of being a parent. The moment we shut our mouths and let them go they started asking for advice and really bloomed into adults. We are very proud of our hard working adult men. God has a path for them and it is different that what we thought it would be. We feel very blessed.
Let them go and follow their own path, but always be there to talk to and give advice when needed.
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